Episode 89 -Removing Expectations and Redefining Sex in Midlife with Jessa zimmerman


Terri talks with Jessa Zimmerman, a certified sex therapist and couple’s counselor based in Seattle, about the need to redefine sex not just in midlife, but from the very beginning.  She talks about the importance of tending to your relationship like a garden and what can happen if you aren’t tending to it.   

Who is Jessa Zimmerman?  

Jessa Zimmerman is a certified sex therapist and couples’ counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it’s become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She is the author of Sex Without Stress, the host of the Better Sex Podcast, and is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Business Insider, Mind Body Green, and Marriage.com. 


Show Highlights 

  • Jessa talks about our work as humans and the clarity we have in midlife and the risks we should be taking to improve and transform our relationships  

  • Jessa talks about the need to redefine sex not just as we get older but from the very beginning  

  • Jessa talks about the myth of soul mates who are expected to complete us,  consensual non-monogamy, affairs, and cheating  

  • Terri asked Jessa to share the resources she recommends for couples looking to improve their relationships and sex in midlife 


Terri’s Key Takeaway 

Your relationship and intimate life are like a garden that needs to be tended.  


References in the Podcast 



Jessa can be reached through her website https://sexwithoutstress.com/ 

You can follow Terri on Twitter at @terrihansonmead or go to her website at www.terrihansonmead.com or on Medium:  https://medium.com/@terrihansonmead.  

Feel free to email Terri at PilotingYourLife@gmail.com. 

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